We Got It Wrong. Neurodivergent at work.

Neurodivergent at work: what diagnosis, disclosure and real support look like when we actually listen.

WHAT’S INSIDE

• Why people stay quiet. The fear of being seen as “an additional burden”, and what it costs teams when support goes unasked for.
• Where support breaks down. How risk-averse policies bury straightforward needs in bureaucracy, and why the cost objection rarely holds up.
• The diagnostic gap. Why so many women were missed in childhood, and the “second wave” many experience at midlife.
• Why EAPs fall short. Six sessions, specialist referrals that cost thousands, and support that ends just as trust builds.
• What diagnosis unlocks. The shift in self-compassion Maria sees in every single person she meets.

“I don’t need to be managed. I need to be heard. I need to be understood. I need to just be valued. And once I know you’re real about that, the sky’s the limit with what I can offer you as an employee.”
Maria Parker, Neurodiversity clinician